話說有個女孩,到哈佛大學面試,面試官刻意不為面試者留一張椅,這女孩便說: "：「對不起，我今天忘了帶電腦，否則可給你們做一個報告。」面試官哈哈大笑。她被取錄了。
還有的是,這女孩的爸爸最愛和女孩搶功課做. 為什麼?因為孩子很喜歡說不，爸爸用妙計令女兒愛上做功課。爸爸這樣說:「女兒讀幼稚園時，我晚晚跟她搶功課來做。我對她說：『落街玩吧！』她就答：『不！我要做功課！』我說：『不要做了。』她便答：『不行！我一定要做！』」兩父女互搶功課，漸漸令女兒愛上功課。
還有一招: 從不責罵 讚到面紅
爸爸這樣說:「我從沒罵過女兒一句，她做錯事，我會告訴她錯了什麼，再錯，再解釋。做對了，便讚她讚到天上有地下無，讚到她面紅。例如叫她收拾玩具，她不聽，媽咪便替她收拾，但若有一次見她自己收拾，即時讚她乖，下次她就會自己收拾，每次收拾完都要讚，不要整天說負面的事情。罵一個人，他會習慣，這次收效，下次卻要罵大聲一點才行，再下次可能要動手了。」
Saturday, August 16, 2008
Tuesday, August 12, 2008
呼吸與祈禱
今日遇上一個護士 (其實已是第二次見面), 她的喜樂和寛容使我感動, 我忍不住問她有沒有信仰,原來她真是信耶穌的.她教我如何照顧BB,也教我如何放鬆自己,訧是從深呼吸開始,後來還加上祈禱並信神是赦免人罪的. Thank you.
Lord, I really need a deep deep breath.
Lord, I really need a deep deep breath.
Sunday, August 10, 2008
Sharing on "Genesis 1"
Feeling:
-lack confidence to find new insights
-wanted to memorize it by heart.
Thinking:
-seems that among 6 days, there is one day that God had not "see it good", need further careful examination.
-recalled old teaching: God see things good though it is incomplete in his Creation Plan.
-new insights: God created Light which he thinks it is good. But He did not remove the Darkness. It just "separated" it from light. / "Day and evening" is different from "Light and Darkness".
-We need not to be perfect. We are just we are, like the animals and plants followed their own kind.
Suggested Doing:
-appreciate one incomplete but good things as good for at least 3 days.
-for children: to "add" some "light" (good things) in the place you have seen "darkness", to add some order among chaos. e.g. to do a favour for a poor mate, to tidy-up their belongings.
-for parents: to praise your child for one thing they have finished step by step though it may be incomplete in your own eyes.
-lack confidence to find new insights
-wanted to memorize it by heart.
Thinking:
-seems that among 6 days, there is one day that God had not "see it good", need further careful examination.
-recalled old teaching: God see things good though it is incomplete in his Creation Plan.
-new insights: God created Light which he thinks it is good. But He did not remove the Darkness. It just "separated" it from light. / "Day and evening" is different from "Light and Darkness".
-We need not to be perfect. We are just we are, like the animals and plants followed their own kind.
Suggested Doing:
-appreciate one incomplete but good things as good for at least 3 days.
-for children: to "add" some "light" (good things) in the place you have seen "darkness", to add some order among chaos. e.g. to do a favour for a poor mate, to tidy-up their belongings.
-for parents: to praise your child for one thing they have finished step by step though it may be incomplete in your own eyes.
由好問到知行
好問問題是我最大的特點,常問少答是我最大的毛病,從問到"應" (不是答)相信是個出路!
如何"從問到應"?,就是提醒自己要讓重要的問題有著應有的回應,就是暫時的出路也可以 .而自己對聖經的疑問,也可以從"如何回應自己的疑問"那裡做起點, 當然能加上對經文的"應用"是更好的.
今天有個點子,就是記下自己的Feeling, Thinking & Suggested "Doing",我相信這會是個不錯的讀經操練.
如何"從問到應"?,就是提醒自己要讓重要的問題有著應有的回應,就是暫時的出路也可以 .而自己對聖經的疑問,也可以從"如何回應自己的疑問"那裡做起點, 當然能加上對經文的"應用"是更好的.
今天有個點子,就是記下自己的Feeling, Thinking & Suggested "Doing",我相信這會是個不錯的讀經操練.
Wednesday, August 06, 2008
朋友在職途上的尋索與經歷
起頭是..."我沒有什麼特別志向? "-->"那麼,就從你的興趣開始吧!"--> 她喜歡讀書, 於是有人建議她做編輯
過程呢?
打電話-->許社長-->李社長-->有急聘-->見工-->"XX"助理-->人事變動-->工作上的變動-->職位變動-->工作變動
發現氣質不適合-->離開文字界-->但願來是對後來的祝福-->工作是因還是果
所以, 氣質不適合也可以試-->因為你不知上帝要你做這工的用意是什麼!
過程呢?
打電話-->許社長-->李社長-->有急聘-->見工-->"XX"助理-->人事變動-->工作上的變動-->職位變動-->工作變動
發現氣質不適合-->離開文字界-->但願來是對後來的祝福-->工作是因還是果
所以, 氣質不適合也可以試-->因為你不知上帝要你做這工的用意是什麼!
Tuesday, August 05, 2008
上帝聽禱告
今日的情緒照樣經歷了大上大落(或者應是大落小上),因為和媽媽的一段對話,我的心亂了好一陣子;因為姐姐的一段責備,自卑感再一次侵襲.跟肥仔談了幾分鐘,心是安了一點.這是上帝的恩典,讓我有個"天跌下來當被蓋"的丈夫.
感恩是我按著心裡的感動,致電給了peter,也慶幸地找到了他(否則我大概不會打多一次電話),說了心裡想說的"善言".也得他很敏銳地回應了我的心情.
奇妙是媽媽晚上來電,她的諒解使我大膽地分享了我所想的和正尋求的路向.她的諒解是叫我萬分意外的.為何呢?認為她不會理解是因為她真的不理解嗎?是因為我對她不信任嗎?不清楚.但是我覺得這是上帝的工作.是上帝使她有空間去關心和支援我,使上帝使她有眼光去理解我的狀況.也是上帝幫助我去建立對人的信任.
上帝是聽禱告的
感恩是我按著心裡的感動,致電給了peter,也慶幸地找到了他(否則我大概不會打多一次電話),說了心裡想說的"善言".也得他很敏銳地回應了我的心情.
奇妙是媽媽晚上來電,她的諒解使我大膽地分享了我所想的和正尋求的路向.她的諒解是叫我萬分意外的.為何呢?認為她不會理解是因為她真的不理解嗎?是因為我對她不信任嗎?不清楚.但是我覺得這是上帝的工作.是上帝使她有空間去關心和支援我,使上帝使她有眼光去理解我的狀況.也是上帝幫助我去建立對人的信任.
上帝是聽禱告的
Why choose Mary? How is her life of parenthood?
submission and humbleness
may also feel that the child is hard to manage and control. Jesus know his own way in childhood? They had their own way, important is that it's God's way.
Mary may feel the stress too?! Don't know how to bring up the child.
During pregnancy, she let herself to be taken care by Joseph. She accept her "weakness" at that time.
may also feel that the child is hard to manage and control. Jesus know his own way in childhood? They had their own way, important is that it's God's way.
Mary may feel the stress too?! Don't know how to bring up the child.
During pregnancy, she let herself to be taken care by Joseph. She accept her "weakness" at that time.
Stop perfectionism
放下"最好/最適合"的要求, 因為壓力只會令你做的事事倍功半,你也發揮不到自己應有的恩賜,在待人/育兒上也會製造無形的壓力和過份緊張的氣氛.
B-/C+/good is okay la...
B-/C+/good is okay la...
Monday, August 04, 2008
願我恆切地求這個...至少七天
求神助我調較好天線,好接收祂的信息.
求神助我建立人生的"具體"方向, 知道我在這世上當有的角色,知道我當交什麼賬,討祂的喜悅.
求神使我大膽相信,祂已照祂的應許,祂正來尋找我,如尋找迷羊.祂也正信實地引導我的人生,走向祂想我走的方向. 願我專一地聆聽自己的聲音,並按神的真理地過濾,選好人生的方向.
求神提醒我,不論我是半職外出工作,還是全職外出工作,我的媽媽身份,角色和託付,責任都沒有改變,於是,我當求的是尋求以合適的方式作個好媽媽.我覺得我期望自己在家庭以外有參與,這使我不得不作某程度的半職工作.神啊,請引導我和加我力.好能兼顧家庭.個人發展.和社會貢献三者的需要.
求神讓我看見你的真實,不單存於別人生命中,也存於我的生命中.願在別人和自己身上看見你的足跡.
求神助我建立人生的"具體"方向, 知道我在這世上當有的角色,知道我當交什麼賬,討祂的喜悅.
求神使我大膽相信,祂已照祂的應許,祂正來尋找我,如尋找迷羊.祂也正信實地引導我的人生,走向祂想我走的方向. 願我專一地聆聽自己的聲音,並按神的真理地過濾,選好人生的方向.
求神提醒我,不論我是半職外出工作,還是全職外出工作,我的媽媽身份,角色和託付,責任都沒有改變,於是,我當求的是尋求以合適的方式作個好媽媽.我覺得我期望自己在家庭以外有參與,這使我不得不作某程度的半職工作.神啊,請引導我和加我力.好能兼顧家庭.個人發展.和社會貢献三者的需要.
求神讓我看見你的真實,不單存於別人生命中,也存於我的生命中.願在別人和自己身上看見你的足跡.
現代父母的52堂教育課
1st: 成功的第一步:
- 做好時間管理--沒有目標,就會浪費時間,漫不經心,毫無目的地看書/逛街.
-確立了目標,卻沒忠於目標,不付諸行動,這同樣浪費時間.
-珍惜時間並不是意味著讓孩子不停地學習,不讓他休息,而是要我們能夠很好地處理休息與娛樂的分際,以便更好,更有效地學習.
(待續)
- 做好時間管理--沒有目標,就會浪費時間,漫不經心,毫無目的地看書/逛街.
-確立了目標,卻沒忠於目標,不付諸行動,這同樣浪費時間.
-珍惜時間並不是意味著讓孩子不停地學習,不讓他休息,而是要我們能夠很好地處理休息與娛樂的分際,以便更好,更有效地學習.
(待續)
Saturday, August 02, 2008
Friday, August 01, 2008
Enneagram
Lord, I put this knowledge under your discipline!
Number 4? Number 1? lead me to a way a can find myself and serve you, please!
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Enneagram_of_Personality
http://zh.wikipedia.org/wiki/%E4%B9%9D%E5%9E%8B%E4%BA%BA%E6%A0%BC
http://www.uzone21.com/WOT/sdu/enneagram/
http://www.enneagraminstitute.com/dis_sample_36.asp
http://www.magnetintl.com/big5/9types1.htm
Number 4? Number 1? lead me to a way a can find myself and serve you, please!
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Enneagram_of_Personality
http://zh.wikipedia.org/wiki/%E4%B9%9D%E5%9E%8B%E4%BA%BA%E6%A0%BC
http://www.uzone21.com/WOT/sdu/enneagram/
http://www.enneagraminstitute.com/dis_sample_36.asp
http://www.magnetintl.com/big5/9types1.htm
Grace is grace. It is not an exchange!
Grace is grace. It is not an exchange.
How about blessing? Is blessing a grace too? or it is from exchange?
How about blessing? Is blessing a grace too? or it is from exchange?
You can never be perfect!
You can never be perfect! You can only be yourself. Your uniqueness brings you strength and weakness. What you can do is to utilize your strength and avoid the impact of the weaknesses.
人生/職業方向的尋索1
What did you value most?
What have you got?
What is your character now? you position now?
What is your problems and weaknesses? (You have to tackle it and avoid the negative side of your weakness)
What do you like?
-music & songs/hymns
-bible exegesis
-
-value meaning, but also expect result and effectiveness.-->afraid of not just losing, but also dislike ineffectiveness. because of this, I always withdraw too fast.
-strengths:
--writing, (purely typing makes me feel a waste of time, I prefer and can manage thoughtful writing)
-weaknesses:
--insecure to relate to people, but has to keep contact with people to avoid over-introvert thinking and emotions. (social needs) (not suitable to do people ministry at least at this stage, people who like people work will not have struggles, may be at least wanted to overcome the difficulties instead of withdrawing)
- a follower, want people's example and reference for sense of security.
-teaching? / writing? reporting? Lord, please open the door/lead the way?
-shopkeeper in a christian bookstore, stationing in church to write GCF story.
What have you got?
What is your character now? you position now?
What is your problems and weaknesses? (You have to tackle it and avoid the negative side of your weakness)
What do you like?
-music & songs/hymns
-bible exegesis
-
-value meaning, but also expect result and effectiveness.-->afraid of not just losing, but also dislike ineffectiveness. because of this, I always withdraw too fast.
-strengths:
--writing, (purely typing makes me feel a waste of time, I prefer and can manage thoughtful writing)
-weaknesses:
--insecure to relate to people, but has to keep contact with people to avoid over-introvert thinking and emotions. (social needs) (not suitable to do people ministry at least at this stage, people who like people work will not have struggles, may be at least wanted to overcome the difficulties instead of withdrawing)
- a follower, want people's example and reference for sense of security.
-teaching? / writing? reporting? Lord, please open the door/lead the way?
-shopkeeper in a christian bookstore, stationing in church to write GCF story.
育兒逼我面對現實的生活
因為要教阿囡,我發覺我需要放下"想得太多"的習慣,更需要學會"看多一點,看真一點",多用眼睛來觀察,比用口問和用耳朶聽更重要.也因此,我更要面對真實而只停留在思想的生活.上帝,我相信這是你的美意!
一個有關教小朋友的自然實驗
剛才,我和芊芊約定,每天給媽媽上午一小時,下午一小時的私人時間,不要在那時間內騷擾媽媽.為什麼呢?因為我需要私人空間,我也希望芊芊學習忍耐和尊重他人的需要.我這期望是太高嗎?但我想這是一個歷程,不是一蹴而就,但不去教也不會學懂.
就在約定的那刻後,我在房裡的書桌上用電腦,(我也立刻將一小時的約定改為半小時)她就立刻要我陪她到廳裡玩,我提醒她有關我們的約定,開始時她仍是扭,經一再強調後,我提議她拿玩具在我身邊的床上玩,她答應了,她想畫畫,不過我說在床上不宜畫畫,建議她玩積木,她竟也很合作.
玩積木時怎麼呢?不到半分鐘,她就問有關積木上的東西是甚麼.平日的我總會立刻放下手頭的東西,回應她,不過今次我選擇提醒她這是我的私人時間,她問多了一兩次,我也強調了一兩次,她就沒有再問我問題了.
後來,她唱起歌來,唱得很高興,我說,可不可低聲一點呢?她竟然也合作了.後來,她又拿積木放在我的桌上,我簡單地描述了她的行為,她就繼續她的搬運工作,很有趣.
期間,我又間中提醒她"未夠鐘",請讓媽媽靜一靜吧!她很可愛,由大聲地引我說話,到轉為低聲,再轉到完全不出聲.她都很聽話. 原來, 小孩子/我的囡囡是可以這樣有耐性和乖巧的!
就在約定的那刻後,我在房裡的書桌上用電腦,(我也立刻將一小時的約定改為半小時)她就立刻要我陪她到廳裡玩,我提醒她有關我們的約定,開始時她仍是扭,經一再強調後,我提議她拿玩具在我身邊的床上玩,她答應了,她想畫畫,不過我說在床上不宜畫畫,建議她玩積木,她竟也很合作.
玩積木時怎麼呢?不到半分鐘,她就問有關積木上的東西是甚麼.平日的我總會立刻放下手頭的東西,回應她,不過今次我選擇提醒她這是我的私人時間,她問多了一兩次,我也強調了一兩次,她就沒有再問我問題了.
後來,她唱起歌來,唱得很高興,我說,可不可低聲一點呢?她竟然也合作了.後來,她又拿積木放在我的桌上,我簡單地描述了她的行為,她就繼續她的搬運工作,很有趣.
期間,我又間中提醒她"未夠鐘",請讓媽媽靜一靜吧!她很可愛,由大聲地引我說話,到轉為低聲,再轉到完全不出聲.她都很聽話. 原來, 小孩子/我的囡囡是可以這樣有耐性和乖巧的!
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